If you search the web, particularly in the "Manosphere" of the internet, there is tons of content about how to attract women.
A lot of the content revolves around things like grooming yourself, dressing nicely, and working out in order to appeal to women physically.
While these things certainly aren't unimportant when trying to attract women because after all, women do like handsome men, they are arguably the least important aspects to focus on when pursuing women.
And this is supported by evolutionary biology, as well as data and surveys on what women value most in a man.
In this article we will go over why women don't care as much about a man's looks as you may think, and what traits they care about most when choosing a partner.
Let's get into it!
What Women Want
Physical appearance is a trait that is valued by both men and women when choosing partners, however, for men it is a top priority while for women it is not.
You've probably seen many couples walking around where the man is not the most handsome "Chad" in the world, while the woman is very attractive, and you think, "What does she see in this guy?"
The answer is very simple. She sees a man who is a capable leader, a provider, and someone who can take care of her and the family at the end of the day.
As men, we often make the crucial mistake of assuming that women are just like us.
They are not.
In fact, they are probably the opposite in a lot of ways, especially when it comes to what they find attractive.
Women want men who they view as someone who can offer them guidance in some way and provide resources for them to build a family, and a life together. These traits are what women value most in a man.
And there are many studies that prove this.
Survey says: Looks don't Matter!
In a huge study of over 68,000 people around the world, women were asked what they look for in a partner.
Only 22% said that physical attractiveness was important, while over 85% said that traits like supportiveness, intelligence, and kindness were important.
In another survey done in 2023, researchers found that masculine traits were still a top priority for women.
Traits like confidence, strength, and a feeling of being protected.
From one woman: "I find it sexy when he is decisive and passionate, and when he makes me laugh."
From another: "I like a man to lead and be assertive."
It's clear from multiple studies that women value masculine traits and traits more than physical appearance, but according to another study they also value certain social qualities of a man.
In a study of over 28,000 heterosexuals, 97% of women believe that it is essential to have a partner who has a steady income, and 69% said that it is important to have a partner who makes or will make a lot of money.
The key to this finding is that while women want men who are high-value, they also like men with the potential to acquire resources and thus, be able to take care of them and the family.
Overall, multiple studies confirm that women value things like confidence, intelligence, assertiveness, and success over physical appearance when looking for their man.
How Evolutionary Biology Plays a Role
The idea that women want men who are confident, successful, and ambitious makes perfect sense from an evolutionary biology point of view.
If we think back to the days of our hunter-gatherer ancestors, wouldn't it make sense for women to be attracted to men who can go out and hunt and build for the family, rather than say, a more attractive man with less ability who is lacking in these traits?
The fact of the matter is that these things are built into our genetic code. The role that a man should play in a relationship is at the very least partially determined by evolutionary biology, and the same can be said about the role of a woman.
Men and women naturally have different skill sets, and different traits that they bring to the table in a relationship, and what we value from a partner can be traced to this.
It makes sense that a man would value physical appearance more than a woman because her physical appearance is an indication of fertility, and an ability to carry a child.
And while she's carrying the child and raising a family, she needs a man who can go out and acquire resources, while being assertive and leading the charge.
The Takeaway
While looks might catch the eye, it’s your confidence, leadership, and ability to provide that truly build lasting connections. Focus on cultivating these qualities, and you’ll be better equipped to form the meaningful relationships you desire.
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